I was struggling to make my little boy sleep tonight. I asked him if he wanted Nanay to read a book for him but he refused. He kept on jumping even after we have sung “Five Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed” for the nth time. So I asked Tatay to give us a random book to read. Eric Carle’s “Slowly, Slowly, Slowly,” Said the Sloth landed on our bed.
“It is true that I am slow, quiet and boring. I am lackadaisical, I dawdle and I dillydally. I am also unflappable, languid, stoic, impassive, sluggish, lethargic, placid, calm, mellow, laid-back and well slothful! I am relaxed and tranquil, and I like to live in peace. But I am not lazy.” Then the sloth yawned and said, “That’s just how I am. I like to do things slowly, slowly, slowly.”
Before I go ahead and write my homeschooling reflections, I thank the slow sloth for it successfully cuddled my little boy to sleep. Slothy dear also helped me organize my thoughts on how to best sum up Rio and I’s first month of preschool homeschooling.
NO RUSH, NO RUSH, NO RUSH.
Confession mode ON: I sometimes feel frustrated when Rio refuses to write our letter of the week or even just to trace those dotted lines in his worksheets. Worse, I even resort to comparing my three-year old self (OMG, that was decades ago!) who was so passionate about writing the letters of the alphabet with my lazy and disinterested little boy.
Just like the sloth, Rio is not lazy. He just wants us to take our homeschooling journey slowly, slowly and slowly.
I could almost hear him say: “Don’t be in a hurry, Nanay. I will learn to write the letters legibly in our perfect time. For now, I want to hold my pencil in different ways. Sometimes I will choose my big crayons or your Sharpie pentel pens over those big fat black pencils. Let’s take it slow, Nanay. We will get there, I promise.”
I am glad that I learned to listen to my son through his actions. He often holds his pencil so gently that his writings would come up so light on paper. This means that I need to work on my little boy’s small finger muscles first to help him gain a tighter grip on the pencil and not force him to write his name right away.
And just like the sloth hanging on tree branches, we may need to see our children’s world in all angles, upside down if necessary, to know their interests and needs. Only then can we discover the best way to teach them and find the activities that will encourage them to play and learn at the same time.
Not rushing does not mean we’re lazy mommies. It means recognizing that it takes time to study and know our children’s strengths and weaknesses — especially at the first stages of schooling. Taking things slowly will also make us enjoy and savor our homeschooling moments with them.
Written by Nadia for worldurbanista.com